What Are Mindful Relationships and How to Practice Them?
When two people meet and feel love, something new is born in the world. A feeling, an experience, and a situation that never happened and never will happen again. Partners who don't rely only on passion but think rationally feel more comfortable with each other.
A mindful relationship is a romantic union in which both partners feel connected to a common goal — personal and couple development. The growth that will make the world a little better. How to carry this desire through the years with your bebe to not lose the power of feeling and appreciation for love? We've picked up important facts and advice from psychologists to help you build a healthy affair!
Listen and Hear for Real
In relationships, especially long-term ones, we often don't listen to our partners carefully enough. Being with a person for a long time, we start to believe that we know in advance most of what he/she will say and even think. So, we become highly inattentive listeners! And it's not even about the quarrels, but the usual daily conversation. Mindful unions are those in which you listen to your partner every time as if you have just met. You are not just interested in his/her words — you try to catch the emotions and show you're interested in the conversation.
Most family conflicts arise from simple misunderstandings. In a mindful relationship, it's worth taking the time to give more detailed answers to your partner's questions and immediately get to the heart of the conflict if it arises. Just stop saying, “No, nothing happened!” and start adding insight into the fight.
There is no room for hurt feelings in a healthy romance, and expectations that your partner will take care of everything himself/herself to his/her own detriment, but so that only you will feel comfortable. It doesn't work that way in such a relationship.
See the Differences
When you're both in love, you want to do everything together and not see the differences between the two of you. Still, there are differences, and it's vital to learn to accept them as early as possible.
You may exclaim, “I didn't expect that from you!” and the conflict gets even deeper. Stop and think, “What did you expect?” Something that fits perfectly into YOUR ideas about morals and behavior? Your partner has his/her own experience and his/her own right to choose.
Your beloved one can put a password on his/her laptop, smartphone, or tablet and go somewhere with his/her friends on Fridays, and that's okay. Your soulmate didn't stop loving you and isn't trying to hide anything, and it's just that everyone should have personal territory. A mindful relationship involves understanding! Having new experiences and interesting information outside the family, you are more willing to share and discuss it with your partner. Having your hobbies, you are more attractive to your lover as an interlocutor.
Sincerity and Support
In mindful relationships, partners like talking to each other and aren't afraid to ask each other questions. Besides, they feel free to talk honestly about their failures and not get a mockery in return. Your partner always expects you to say, “Honey, we can do this!” and he/she will never be happy to hear things like, “Well, I told you it wouldn't work out, and you'd screw up!”
Mindfulness practice is designed to help you both stop in time. Don't react immediately emotionally, but take a breath, think over your words, and then express your opinion.
A conscious couple appreciates growth more than anything else because they realize that personal growth is the secret that keeps a relationship alive. Even if this development might be frightening as you have no idea what's waiting for you, or even if there is a risk of outgrowing the relationship, the couple is willing to develop. This is why there is a natural sense of vitality and love in the relationship.
Love is an art—the art of accepting, being there for, forgiving, and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable. Sometimes, we take love for granted. We want to be on top of that feeling all the time, and when that doesn't happen, we're not satisfied with our relationship.